Learn. Heal. Grow.
Below are the three most common symptoms of the unconscious power struggle:
You and your partner are constantly in conflict, arguing, scoring points and bickering like children, needing to prove that your perspective on things is the right one and that your partner is at fault, can often be over small, repetitive and ridiculous issues.
You and your partner live very separate lives with different hobbies and friends spend as much time as they can avoiding intimate connection with each other using, the children, work, gym, yoga, pub etc. as excuses. Essentially you have exited from the relationship long ago and are just going through the motions usually for, your religious beliefs, the outward appearance, financial practicalities or perceived benefit of the children.
Either you or your partner are considering or actively exploring intimate connection with another, thus creating a major rupture that can if undealt with lead to a terminal exit and termination of the relationship.
I have been on my own healing journey from childhood trauma, attachment wounding and effects of a broken marriage since my early 20's. I completed my first counselling diploma in the mid 90’s and have been healing, studying and working in these fields ever since.
During this time I experienced the pain of dysfunctional relationship before learning the secret to having and maintaining successful relationships: “becoming conscious through dialogical communication”.
It's now my passion to share the knowledge and tools I’ve gained through a unique therapeutic education programme for couples, “Conscious Couples Therapy”.
I have completed the Imago dialogue for Couples Clinical Training for Therapists and I am a certified Imago dialogue educator. I am passionate about creating healthy relationships based on love, respect and desire, creating safety and security for the next generation to flourish.
I support couples to resolve conflict, rebuild trust and heal past resentments through learning new ways of communication that work. I am committed to holding a safe equitable space of unconditional positive regard for all my clients irrespective of race, religion, gender or level of ability. I look forward to working with you.
Conscious Couples Therapy created by Matthew Greenwood is a modern therapeutic approach to relating. Transforming relationships full of pain suffering and resentment (unconscious projections of wounding and trauma) into conscious couplehoods of love, respect, healing, growth, intimacy and passion based on methods of conscious communication that work.
Conscious Couples Therapy is a safe therapeutic space where couples learn to be intentional rather than reactional and where unconscious and damaging patterns of behaviour are safely brought into the light. It is a programme of 6 plus, 1.5hr therapeutic dialogue sessions held face-to-face in Bristol or via Zoom globally.
Couples sit opposite each other and are guided to reconnect through carefully worded sentence stems and begin to learn how to communicate safely, consciously and with respect. The couple will learn the power of sharing regular appreciation and gratitude as well as learn to identify and take responsibility for any feelings and stories that may arise.
They will practice the core tenants of conscious communication mirroring, validation and empathy both in session and through detailed yet simple homework assignments. The couple commit to removing all negative behaviour over time and create a safe relational space to do their work.
They will learn that disagreements are healthy part of a conscious couple and that all views are subjective. They learn to speak without shaming, blaming or criticizing and to listen by remaining open and curious, parking their own reactivity and really trying to understand the other persons point of view.
They will create a joint vision for their couplehood where any disagreements will be seen as opportunities for healing and growth and will be given the tools and tuition to use them successfully. They will learn how to identify and heal past resentments, rebuild trust and to apologise at the earliest opportunity to avoid creating new conflicts whilst come to know the value of happiness over being right.
Conscious couples therapy, through the use of carefully scripted dialogues not only heals ruptures in the present or relative past, it identifies many of the underlying traumas beneath the triggers so that over time and through consistent application, lasting healing and transformation occurs.
As a Certified Imago educator, Matthew’s work is heavily influenced by Harville and Helens work on Imago dialogue and credits much of the dialogical methodology to their work.
The role of the facilitator/educator/therapist in conscious couples therapy is not to unwittingly triangulate with one partner or the other or to mediate arbitrarily between opposing sides of an argument often perpetuating right and wrong axis of traditional couples therapy. It is to remind the couple that they are in fact always on the same team, to educate and equip them with the necessary tools for respectful, safe joyful relating as swiftly and safely as possible so that their tertiary role is no longer required.
Ready to become a conscious couple? Call Matthew Today on 01179730606.
£90.00 per hour of Conscious Couples Therapy.
A series of 6 sessions in person in Bristol or over zoom 1.5 hours at £135.00 each.
Total £810.00 or Secure your 10% discount by paying £730.00 in full at time of initial booking.
Additional sessions £135.00 per 1.5 hour session.
Paid via bank transfer 48hrs before your session to:
Personal Realignment LTD
details supplied on Invoice.
If you prefer to pay using Bitcoin, Ethereum, Solana or any other Crypto currency, this can easily be arranged.
I am passionate about the transformational power of this work and the positive effects it has on the whole family as well as leaving a legacy for generations that follow.
If affordability is an issue please do get in touch as generous concession sessions are available for low income couples and families.
All enquires are usually answered within 24 hours, and all contact is strictly confidential.