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What to expect

Upon initial enquiry or request we book a 20 minute discovery call with both parties independently to hear each persons perspective, answer any questions and establish your individual commitment to the work.

You then discuss and decide as a couple if you would like to proceed with the Initial 6 session programme.

Upon receipt of your joint acceptance I set up an encrypted 3 way WhatsApp group for our logistic and assignment communications and email out preliminary documentation including invoice and payment information.

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Bespoke programme

I create a bespoke programme for each couple, depending on the specific aspects of their relationship that they are looking to address. I then marry this up with the core principles of building a conscious couplehood.

As a conscious couples therapist I teach my clients a new ways of being in relationship based on love, respect, safety, zero negativity, curiosity, responsibility, healing and growth using Imago dialogue as the underlying methodology.

Over a minimum of 6 x 1.5 hour sessions I introduce my clients to the first steps to Conscious couplehood , owning their triggers, removing negativity, re-visioning, and re-structuring their frustrations.

Over subsequent sessions we address, re-imaging, re-commitment and re-romanticizing their relationships as well as deeper healing on the underlying traumas responsible for the present ruptures in connection.

Getting started

We start at the beginning with learning new ways to listen, mirror, validate and empathize on an uncharged topic, followed by learning how to share one line appreciations and have them mirrored and validated as well as more in-depth dialogues as and when time allows.

We honor the positive feelings that brought them together and look at areas of negativity that need to change. We learn tools and commit to removing negativity from the relationship as well as learning how to communicate on areas of disagreement and communicating our needs in a mature, respectful and healing way with scripted dialogues that are easy to follow.

I set practical homework tasks between sessions and request that couples practice the methodology as the more natural it becomes the better it flows when issues arise.

Re-visioning the relationship

My couples revise their relationship by bringing their separate vision together to form a new collective road map for their “conscious couple” commitment.

Through this process they sometimes find areas of disagreement and are taught to see these as future content for dialogue and opportunity for stretching, healing and growth.

We also work on agreement for re-commitment to one another and to end behaviours that create avoidance in intimate connection so as to contain vital energy within the relationship.

Through our time together my clients gain a deeper understanding of the core wounds of one another and the adaptive strategies at play. The couple get to re-image each other and can often fall in love again, and remember what it was about them that attracted them in the beginning.

Core wounding

We often touch on areas of core wounding that are present in relationship and give space for this to be heard validated empathized with and honoured, whilst being aware not have it take over and divert the energy of the session.

There have been times where it has been appropriate for one of the couple to have some one on one therapy to support their specific need which falls outside the remit of our sessions together.

On occasions where one party is not committed to the work and has already energetically exited from the relationship, or when affairs or addictions are continuing, the Imago approach that I teach has not facilitated a reconnection. Instead, in these situations it has given the tools to the couple to separate or co-parent in a more conscious, considerate, respectful, mature and responsible way.

I enjoy sharing the positive strategies for lasting, joyful aliveness that Imago methodology can bring to any couple who are open, willing and prepared to do the work.

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“Matthew at conscious couples therapy saw me and my husband at crisis point and has really helped give us the tools to save our marriage. The form of communication he teaches has reshaped how we deal with problems and will continue to help us through the rest of our marriage. He is passionate about the work he does and really cares about the couples he works with. I would definitely recommend realignment to couples as the method he teaches really creates a much happier, calmer and safer way of communicating.”

SARAH DOWN

“This counselling was a god send for me and my husband. When we contacted Matthew, our marriage was in such a bad place. We had started looking at divorce lawyer. However, after agreeing to do Matthew's counselling. We both realised though we loved each other. Our language, ability to listen, story we are telling ourselves, and interpretation of our partner was causing such barriers. Matthew allowed us, using his style of the imago method to open our world up to each other and really listen. He allowed us to reflect on why we react to things and brings in childhood traumas and trigger for healing and understanding. I would highly recommend.”

YASMIN

“Matthew was brilliant to work with the guidance and advice that was given to me, personally has helped me understand how to communicate so much better with my partner, I found our communication getting better after each session and it created a much calmer atmosphere, I also felt it wasn’t just working to communicate better with my partner, Matt really helped me dive into myself as person to be more conscious. I would 100% recommend Matthew. Thank you so much!”

RYAN

“Matthew was great! We've gained so much from our time with him and our relationship has never been stronger. Thank you Matthew!”

CHRIS AND DANI

“I cannot thank Matthew enough for providing me and my husband the best guidance, support encouragement and understanding throughout our couples counselling. Matthew creates a relaxed, friendly and safe environment to help open communication. You can tell he really cares for his clients. The therapy that Matthew gives allows you to have the tools to take with you forever! I highly recommend Matthew for any couples and individual counselling!”

ZOE

“Although I wasn’t sure about “conscious couples” when we signed up I cant thank Matthew enough for the transformation of our relationship. We were like passing ships in the night after years of resentment on both sides, always finding other priorities to avoid spending intimate time together. Even our children were worrying about us. Matthew's knowledgable warm and passionate approach showed us a wonderful mirror and gave us tools and exercises to reconnect and rediscover the fun and the spark we’d lost. Thank you.”

JAMES

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